Breakups can be harsh and if it was a long relationship, you must be out of practice for the dating game. You may a feel a little lost and confused, not knowing where to start. So, here are a few tips to get you back in the game:
You may feel a little let down after your last breakup. And if you haven’t dated in a while, it may seem like the dating world has changed. But don’t despair. The first step to making a fresh start is to start feeling confident again. Stop doubting yourself and maintain a positive attitude. Focus on the good aspects of your life, such as your family, your career and your achievements. When you feel good about yourself, you are more likely to have a positive outlook on new relationships.
Don’t get upset if you aren’t able to find a suitable date. It can take time for your group of friends and family to know that you are newly single and once they do, they will eventually set you up with someone they know. At this time, don’t be tempted to get back together with your ex. Being single can be tough, but you parted ways with your ex for a reason. So, be patient and stay positive till the right person comes along.
You are not going to find someone sitting in your bubble of loneliness. You need to actively be on the lookout for potential dates by attending events, engaging in social hangouts or merely striking up casual conversation in a coffee shop.
When Your Land a First Date
Congratulations on your new date! But before you go ahead, keep a few tips in mind. Be casual and conduct a soft interview to get to know your date better. Avoid asking too many personal questions or bringing up past relationships. A good ice breaker is to talk about common interests and hobbies. A light pat on the hand or leaning in close (without creeping them out!) can be electrifying. Pair that with a good compliment and you will be unforgettable.
Land a Second Date
At the end of your first date, make sure to get their number or some sort of contact information. Don’t be afraid of rejection. If they don’t respond, don’t feel disheartened. It doesn’t necessarily mean there is something wrong with you, maybe there was just no spark for them. In any case, it will still count as good practice. If they do respond, make sure you arrange another date where you can get to know them better.
Meet More, Text Less
When dating senior singles, avoid long series of back and forth texting. Sometimes messages can be misinterpreted, causing your date to become upset and they may never respond again. It’s always better to meet for an actual date than communicating via email or text message. Meeting in person will help you connect on another level and give you the chance to move your relationship forward.