Online Dating Advice from an Experienced, Middle-Aged Single Man

dating advice from middle aged single man

When it comes to online dating, we’ve heard plenty of stories of what you should or shouldn’t do. Here’s a bit of online dating advice that can be used, no matter how old you are, because it works.

1. Rejection

Older dating requires a unique combination of courage, grit, determination, and stamina. Online dating is a high-wire act that will make you anxious when you start, but you’ll soon be comfortable with it and the possibilities of being rejected. Let’s face it, rejection is going to happen no matter how wealthy you are or how good looking you are. There is no middle ground here, and if someone rejects you, you have to remember not to take it personally, even though you may want to.

2. It isn’t personal

You know how we said rejection wasn’t personal? It isn’t! Yes, rejection isn’t something we wait for eagerly, but it is always a possibility. It can be a painful blow to an already fragile ego. But you have to remember that people reject others for a litany of reasons, many times they might reject you for reasons that have nothing to do with you. However, you may want to take note if you are constantly getting rejected, as it could be an indication there is something you’re doing wrong.

3. Classic mistakes

They say opposites attract, but that isn’t always true. If you’ve always gone for the cutie who is completely different than you, chances are you’re setting yourself up for heartache. Instead, you might want to focus on dating someone whose personality is complementary to yours. Not only will you be able to find someone that you enjoy spending time with, but it’ll make for much more enjoyable conversations when you both see eye to eye.

4. More than just a pretty face

Attraction isn’t limited to the way you feel when you look at someone. Yes, appearance does play a role, but in no way is it the primary thing you should focus on. When you are looking through dating profiles, it usually is the picture that grabs your attention first, but there has to be something more. Look at their profile and see if they have similar interests. When you exchange messages, see if there is any witty banter. Attraction goes so much further than just a pretty face. You’d do well to remember this.

5. No uphill battles

We all face being rejected from time to time, but we can limit how often this happens. Age, unfortunately, is a common reason why older folks tend to get rejected. Many of these older folk have a very narrow scope of people they are willing to date because they severely limit the age bracket. However, when you choose to be a little more relaxed on the age issue, you may find that you’ll be going on dates more, and maybe even falling in love.