What Should You Say When You First Meet a Woman?

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When you’re in the presence of an attractive single woman, you may find it a bit intimidating trying to work up the courage to talk to her. When you do find the courage to approach her, you may find that either you stumble over your words and you look foolish, or you say something completely off the wall that makes her wonder if there is something wrong with you. Needless to say, your chances of making a good first impression flew out the window the second you opened your mouth and you were unprepared.

Here are a few ideas of how to break the ice and make talking to a woman that you’re interested in a little bit easier.


Yes, it is as simple as that. Hello paired with an introduction is one of the most effective ways to get her to notice you. This method is so simple, yet so many men tend to overlook it and they dive right in with some cheesy pickup line. By simply saying hello, you are being neutral enough that a woman doesn’t assume you are trying to get into her pants but it does let her know that you’re interested in something. A simple hello will allow the conversation to flow freely and easily.

Ask Her Questions

You may feel inclined to talk about yourself, but we highly recommend against doing this. While there is nothing wrong with shedding a little bit of light about who you are and why you want to talk to her, you also don’t want to dominate the conversation. You should be willing to ask open ended questions about herself so that she will have to talk about herself. You want the attention on her, not you. Also, when you ask her questions about herself, you are giving yourself the opportunity to learn more about her personality as well as make her feel good by the attention you’re giving her.

Don’t Go Too Far With The Questions

Although we recommend that you ask her questions, you don’t want it to feel like a rapid fire game of 20 questions. You don’t want her to feel like you are interrogating her. Instead, focus on asking questions that will enable you to share a bit of information about yourself as well. For example, you could ask her what she does for a living. Once she is done telling you about her career, she will most likely ask you about your career. This kind of repartee is ideal.

When you notice that there is a lull in the conversation, you may feel the need to fill the silence instead of letting the quiet settle in. Too often, this is when men either start idly chatting about this or that, or they may ask questions of no import. Instead, use this silence to do a little silent flirting. How? Glance at her and smile at her. Chances are she looks at you and smiles back. This may not seem like a big deal, but this kind of silent bonding is actually quite comforting.