It’s time for the first date and you’re wracking your brain trying to come up with things to talk about. You know you shouldn’t be the only one driving the conversation, but you feel obligated to say something when the conversation stalls. Be that as it may, sometimes you just don’t know what to say. Here’s a few ways that you can keep the conversation flowing and by the end of the evening, your date will be left thinking you’re an incredible person.
- Talk to the Opposite Sex
Before you even go on the first date, you should chat with members of the opposite sex. How else do you get an idea of what the opposite sex is interested in unless you actually talk to them?
You should know that men and women do not converse the same, nor do they share similar interests or conversational habits. You should definitely take note of these differences when going into the first date. By knowing this, you will be less likely to make a fool of yourself. You should always think before you speak, especially if you want to make a good first impression.
- Topic to Talk About
We all know that there some topics that you cannot talk about with someone that you’re just going out with for the first time, so what topics can you discuss? Well, since you are both single parents, you should definitely talk about your children! Granted you don’t want the whole evening to be dedicated to your children and their accomplishments, but you shouldn’t shy away from talking about them. They are a huge part of your life, after all. You can share war stories, exciting accomplishments, and everything in between… Just leave out the really embarrassing stuff.
Other topics include questions that encourage conversation. Ask questions that requires your date to respond with something other than a one or two-word answer. You can also comment on pop culture as well as work… Just keep work conversation to a bare minimum and last resort.
Have you ever heard of the quote that says we only have one mouth but two ears, so we should listen more than we talk? This quote is over 2,000 years old and comes from the Greek Philosopher, Epictetus. When you actively listen to what your date is saying, you are letting them know that you are interested in what they have to say and want to learn more about them. Plus, by listening to what they are saying, you can keep the conversation flowing by adding to what they are saying or asking questions.
- Ask Questions
You may already know a little bit about your date prior to the actual date, but when you ask questions that requires them to come up with a decent answer, you can add to it. There’s nothing worse than asking a question with the intent on engaging in a conversation, and they simply respond with one or two words. It almost makes you wonder why you even bother.