5 Kinds of Men You Should Avoid Dating After Divorce

kinds of men you better avoid

Divorce can leave a big hole in your life and when the grieving process is over, you’re probably going to want to start dating again. Did you know that there are three rules of dating after going through a divorce? They are:

  • You should never think that you are damaged goods simply because you are a divorcee.
  • Don’t punish the new guy for the wrongs your ex-committed against you.
  • Don’t get into bed on the first date, no matter how much you really want to.

With these rules in mind, here are five types of men that you should want to stay away from post-divorce.

1. The Angry Divorced Man

You can tell that this guy got screwed by his ex-wife within the first few minutes of talking to you. You think that you can bond because you both went through a divorce. You might feel like you can rant about your ex together and you may even wind up having some steamy hate-for-the-ex sex, but… Dating someone who has hostility toward their ex is an indicator that they aren’t ready for a new relationship with you or anyone else.

2. Still Friends With the Ex

This guy may sound like a good choice because he seems to be mature enough to move on with his life and continue to be friends with someone who was a big part of their lives. However, you might want to stay away from this guy because deep down, he may still have strong feelings for the ex and secretly wants to get back together.

3. The Player

He’s spent a good portion of his life married to one woman, now that he is single, he probably wants to see if he still has it. You find him tantalizing because he can make small talk with just about everyone and always seems to know exactly what to say to make you feel good. While he may be a charmer, you don’t want to date him because if he can sweep you off your feet, just imagine who else he uses those lines on.

4. The Analyst

You can spot this guy from a mile away because he is the one that leans in pretty closely when he’s talking to you. Oh, and he also asks you how you feel and how does that (whatever that may be) make you feel. The only time that question is attractive is if you’re in bed. Now, it’s understandable that you may be drawn to this guy because he listens to your problems and offers genuine advice, but… You want a date, not a free therapy session.

5. Green with Envy (and Jealousy)

This guy is the one that looks like your knight in shining armor by offering to right any wrongs a man may have committed against you. While this may seem endearing, it can be a little creepy, especially if you barely know each other. Jealousy can be flattering, but when it gets too serious, it can get dangerous. Sometimes this jealousy is just masking disturbing behavior like being incredibly controlling to the point where they dictate your life. Sometimes, they could even become violent. Consider this as a warning.