How many times have you been out with a eligible single man and wondered if he is really interested in you, or if he is just biding his time until someone else comes along? You would think the signs of him being interested are obvious, but sometimes (many times) they aren’t as apparent as you’d like and you’re often left wondering where you stand.
You may even allow behaviors that come with red flags slide simply because the guy sends you mixed signals and you’re often left feeling confused about the whole situation. Stop worrying about where you stand and if you recognize these five behaviors in your man, then it’s time to kick him to the curb, because no woman should tolerate these behaviors.
He disappears and comes back without a good reason.
So you’ve gone out with this person from time to time, and each time you go out, you feel amazing. The conversation flows easily, you like him a lot, and there is chemistry between you. Why, you may even feel like he could be the one.
Until he disappears and then a few months down the road he suddenly shows back up on your door and asking you out. When you ask what happened to him, he doesn’t give you an explanation that is truly satisfying.
In these instances, you should never feel like you have to settle for a lame excuse. If he doesn’t have a legitimate reason, then take what he says with a grain of salt. If he really liked you, he would have told you what was going on and kept you in the loop.
He only asks you out when it’s convenient for him.
You may have tried reaching out to him to go out on a date, but he has some sort of excuse as to why he can’t. However, as soon as he asks you out, you’re always there, ready and willing to meet up—even if it isn’t the most convenient of times for you. This thoughtlessness is a clear indication that he only sees you as a way to pass the time and nothing more.
He is always working or spending time with family.
As a mature single person, you’ve probably got children so you know how precious that time is. However, if it always feels like he is spending time with his kids or at work and doesn’t make a little bit of time for you, then perhaps he simply isn’t interested. If he was, you could be certain that he would make the time to be with you too.
You are introduced as a friend.
Although you may feel like you’re too mature for labels, it still stings a little when you spend a lot of time with someone, are romantic with one another, and maybe even discuss future plans with one another and he still introduces you to others as a “friend.” If this is the case with your man, perhaps he just isn’t as invested in the relationship as you are.
Rarely takes you out on dates.
When you do meet up, you either go to his place or yours—never opting to go out for a night on the town. These instances, no matter how old or young you are, is a little thing called a booty call. Know the signs and know them well, lest you wind up as one.