Although you may be experiencing a drought in the love department, despite any effort you may have put into trying to change it, you might start feeling like love just isn’t in the cards for you.
These feelings can be amplified when you’re surrounded by people who are in a relationship and seem to be blissfully unaware of your suffering or during the holidays when people tend to get more lovey-dovey.
If you can identify with either of those scenarios, we understand. When we witness other people smitten and in the arms of someone they care about, we can get jealous and down-trodden. Keep your chin up, Buttercup, because the possibilities of you finding your love is as within your reach as ever.
Here’re a few things that you might want to keep in mind while you are waiting for that special someone to strut through that down and win your heart.
1. The world is so full of possibilities.
So you may have waited a while to start looking for love, whether you never settled down in the first place or you are recovering from a long-term relationship that has ended for one reason or another, there is no time to start looking than today. A lot of people feel like if they aren’t married by a certain age, it will never happen to them. Wrong! Love has no “use by” date. Surely you’ve heard of people who marry for the first time very late in life, so if they can find love, so can you.
2. The way you approach life matters.
If you approach life and the search for love like a chore you’d rather not be bothered with, then, of course, you aren’t going to have an easy go at looking for love. However, if you are open and receptive to the possibility that your ideal mate is out there, then you’ll be more likely to meet them.
3. Don’t see failure as a bad thing but as a positive thing.
You may have gone on a few dates and none of them worked out for one reason or another. Instead of getting discouraged, look at these failed dates as progress. How are they progress? Because you were open minded enough to go out with someone and give it a shot. Simply by being willing to try and meet someone says a lot about how serious you are about trying to find love.
4. Love can heal the pain which was caused by loneliness.
When you are single and longing to fall in love, each day can feel like torment; but, the second that you find someone you hit it off with and consider that you could fall in love with them? All those pains seem to vanish, thus allowing the healing powers of love to take over and make you feel whole again. We aren’t saying the new person you are dating is completing you, but we are saying that the love that you’ve been missing from your life is helping you to forget that pain and relish in the warmth of your partner’s embrace. It’s such a nice feeling, isn’t it?